i went the honest route and told her what had happened and she stopped speaking to me. i don't blame her...but she never mentions him. and she's had better since. i know this is just casual but i'm very comfortable with this person and i want to continue to experience the way things are going. however, i don't want to do it at the expense of a friendship. please see my point of view? you don't have to like it but permission would be nice.